Let your weakness be your strength Busting the myths 1
Publishing a series of 6 articles on Busting the myths, written for Clean Run, also here now:
I was actually asked to write a training article on running contacts or turns or something else my dogs are most famous for. But training articles are really not my thing, I have a personal problem with step by step instructions... I'm a very patient dog trainer, but I look like the most impatient person in the world if I need to read instructions. Yes, it makes me nervous and annoyed to read too detailed instructions even when it's about technical stuff - and even more when it comes to dogs. So I promise not to waste your time and not to give you any steps in this series of articles - just some food for thought.
What I love the most about dog training is that dogs don't come with instructions. They work, learn and function differently and require us to understand, see and feel them as individuals. There isn't one way that would work for all - I wouldn't be in dog training if there was... What I love the most about training dogs is that they all come with different challenges, strengths and weaknesses and that the most important part of dog training is to adjust to the dog you have and find what works best for your dog. You need to adjust the steps and even turn them completely around sometimes. Don't buy the "musts" and instead listen to your dog and do what you think it's best for that particular dog.
That was the first lesson I learned on dog training. I have no formal education on dog training, I actually studied philosophy and never read a book or watched a DVD on dog training, so steps and systems never set me limits. All I had was a dream, as a little child already. When I finally got my first dog, a wild Samoyed puppy, I was 11 years old and took him to a dog school... It was schutzhund class with 30 students, all men over 40 with their GSDs and Rottweilers - and me and my Samoyed. - A pretty easy situation to learn that their way won't get me anywhere and I need to think how to make my dog work with me on my own, without their choking and alpha wolf advices. - A bit harder when you are 11, it's a pre-internet era and everybody tells you you know nothing - and you know yourself you know nothing too. But knowing nothing makes learning something new extra easy. Knowing nothing gave me a much easier start as believing in myths would have. So I found a way to make that crazy Samoyed think obedience is fun, passed the exam with flying colors and learned a very important lesson: that there is something stronger as a choke collar and an alpha wolf - and it's called a team.
Finding a way to make obedience or agility the ultimate fun and something you both love is definitely the key to success. Dogs - and people - will always work best when they work because they love to, not because they're asked to or because they have to or because they're paid to do so. So don't ask your dog to work for you. Let them ask you to work with them. Help them see how much fun agility is and let them ask for more. My after-Samoyed dogs all love toys and food - but they love agility even more. I sure reward a lot, simply because I think they're pretty awesome and they deserve to know that, but they run for the love of running, not to get that toy or a treat. You can't take that toy or a treat to the ring - but you can always take the love for running: anytime, anywhere.
Love to run. Stronger as any toy or a treat.
My Samoyed was hard to motivate, would never tug and didn't fit into any other description of a good agility dog, but he taught me a ton on motivation and the importance of the bond. Then I got Lo, my first Pyrenean Shepherd - with tons of fears and phobias. - No motivation issues, but plenty of important lessons on trust and the importance to respect their fears and work around it, funding in trust rather as obsessing over their fears. My next dog was La - no motivational or fear issues and pretty much a perfect dog - if you don't count a complete lack of self-control as imperfection. - I don't, I think wild is pretty cool. But I knew we have no future with stopped contacts, so I adjusted to this small weakness of my perfect La and made it our biggest strength - running contacts. Yes, I thought of my famous running contacts just for La, my perfect little dog with no self-control. She of course also doesn't have start line stays - but I made something good out of that too, learned about the importance of verbal cues and clear handling and thanks to that, I can easily handle ANY beginning, starting together with the dog who set best time on World Championships 16 times - the record that will be hard to beat.
We might not have a start line stay... - But hey, we do have the attitude!
And when I really thought I learned enough lessons and can make it easy on myself this time and get a Border Collie - it turns out she is autistic and she won't play, follow or respond to a happy voice. She taught me everything about patience, adjusting and working around the weaknesses. Working through all the problems we have had made us a great team, excelling at World Championship level - not so long after being advised to get rid of her...
I guess that all the important lessons I learned, I learned thanks to problems, at points where following the instructions didn't take me anywhere.
I learned to see every problem as an opportunity to learn something new and I have to thank the weaknesses for all the strengths me and my dogs have as a team - speed and motivation, great bond, running contacts and great independence on cik&cap turns that are our strengths now all originate in that or another problem we encountered on the way. I'm not a perfect handler or a trainer, I know my weaknesses - and my dogs are not perfect either, I know their weaknesses really well. - And that's exactly what makes us a perfect team. So embrace your weaknesses - and make them your strength. Don't spend your time following steps on how to make a perfect dog out of your dog, spend your time getting to know your dog and thinking outside of the box to find the best way for your dog. - That is the best dog ever already, in that or another way - you just need to learn what makes him the greatest dog ever. The more challenges you will encounter, the more you will learn. I always say that in order to become a very good trainer, you need a very bad dog.
And lots of persistence of course. Don't believe in "can't" - because everything is possible - with enough enthusiasm, passion and a little bit of craziness. Trust me, I was told many times what can't be done - can't make a good agility dog out of that Samoyed, out of that scared Lo, out of that autistic Bu... - can't have consistent running contacts - can't succeed without a start line stay etc. - and it just gave me more motivation to do exactly that. 🙂 - To turn our weaknesses in our strengths.
Absolute GREAT 🙂
Thanks Silvia for this very inspiring article 🙂 love your way of thinking 😉
May I ask your authorization to translate it into french ? some of my facebook “friends” would need to read this carefully ….
Thanks 🙂 And sure, go ahead!
a lovely read….
“with enough enthusiasm, passion and a little bit of craziness”
I just love that..thank you for many tips …
Maureen and her dalmatiens
Thanks for such an inspiring article -- following just having fun and believing Bob will do it -- inspired by you has helped us so much. Just taught him to jump into my arms a couple of weeks ago . . .
I can’t leave a comment on your busting myths article on Facebook directly and I’m not sure if this will even reach you. I thought I’d try anyway because I seem to be the only person who didn’t love it or find it inspiring. I found it a bit depressing and feel even more discouraged now. I agree with a lot of it- I’m glad I got a difficult dog instead of the Lassie myth I was expecting. I know you meant well, but the idea that everything is possible and I shouldn’t believe in “can’t”… it makes me feel like a failure. I have enthusiasm, passion, and a little bit (okay, a lot) of craziness, but if anything is possible… why isn’t my dog the one who set best time on World Championships 16 times? (I also have to get pedantic here and say that it is technically impossible for two dogs to do that, so yes, some things are!) It certainly wasn’t for a lack of trying. So… how can I turn the weakness that she’s almost 12 now and has arthritis into a strength and go get that done?
Oh, I certainly didn’t set best time on WC 16 times with a Samoyed who taught me the most! It happened 10 years later, with another dog 🙂 -- And that’s exactly what I meant with persistence! With the Samoyed, my biggest achievement was to keep him with me in the ring rather as leaving me to check other dogs… -- That was good enough for me! Winning World Championships was never my goal. It just happened after I learned enough from the dogs who could never ever win World Championships. What was possible was to get them to love agility and to teach me enough to eventually win World Championships… But no, I certainly didn’t mean you can win WC with any dog, right now, right here. It takes much more patience as that. -- Much more modesty and being happy with little things and building from there…
Hope that clears up that misunderstanding!
That makes a lot of sense. I love how you always focus on the good stuff. 🙂
Thank you so much Silvia for your “out-of-the-box” perspective. One thing I have certainly learned from my most wonderful & challenging agility partner is that training her from an “out-of-the-box” attitude is the best way for us to become the team we are meant to be. I love running with my dog and while she came with her own set of strengths and weaknesses (so do I), I have learned that those qualities open more doors to my own growth as a handler. What a joy to run with a dog that pulls me to the startline every time just as excited to run as I am. I would not have it any other way.
I will not likely ever run in a World agility event, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have a World class grin from ear-to-ear every time we finish the last obstacle in any agility course whether we run clean or not. It’s the journey & not the destination. Thank you for sharing your thoughts & your article. Happy tails!
Definitely! Who cares about winning when you see their happy face! That’s what it is all about!
My hero’s! <3 Oh and LOVE the photo of you and La!
My thoughts exactly! 😀
A great article -- thank you for sharing it with us! It really touched me, and made me think. Nobody’s perfect -- neither a person nor a dog. We just have to make best out of what we have and enjoy the ride!
I just love your way of thinking and your attitude towards dog training and all. I have sooo much to learn from you and I’m so happy that I have this opportunity to do so with my puppy! Thank you! 🙂
Such a wonderful article!
I read it twice and translated it in german for my family -- thank you for those inspiring words! 🙂
Such an inspiring article! I, too, started with an unlikely dog, a siberian husky. Taught her all sorts of tricks and to heel along with my horse on the side of the road (on the right side because horses must go with traffic). I may never have a WC dog, but as you know that doesn’t mean anything to me. I am just happy my little Spur is happy doing agility with me. And he sure was a dog no one thought would ever enter the ring. 😀 And certainly no one ever thought I would get Rotten Roscoe into an obedience ring, yet he did and did very well with very high scores! My little “autistic” dog! 😀 You are an inspiration and I have never known any instructor to be so positive and find the little things to help motivate the most worried and “unmotivated” dogs. You are unique!
Photo -- Rotten Roscoe after I took my eye off him for a SECOND, as we were being presented with a first place ribbon and a perfect score, he goes to hump the judge!!!
Oh no, Roscoe!!!
HA!HA!!! too funny 🙂
That is hilarious!! I roared with laughter with your mention of Rotten Roscoe & the picture of him on the judges. Thanks for sharing that. It made my day.
Very inspiring … again! 🙂 I love your articles -- and hope there’s more to come soon 🙂
🙂 5 more to come…